A watched pussy never pops...

[Shimbob]

I was thinking, you know that old saying "a watched pot never boils"? Well in a mentality way of thinking, chicks are the same way. For example, you might have real feelings for a girl, you think about her all the time and almost become obsessive over her. then the tragedy: she pulls away. I know that the professor was talking about his game, and how it should be improved and shit like that. Believe me when I say that almost every single guy goes through that. I have discovered that you never get close to getting what you want if you think about it too much. Instead, I've found that thinking about the 'prize' and not the means to the prize is the best mentality that girls, and life in general, will go along with.
What you think?

[Prof Bestestes]

Right now, I'm thinking about it. Over thinking it.
The best scenario is mutual attraction. That spark you feel when you meet the right girl. It's magnetic. There's some passion there. Your best qualities just naturally raise to the surface. It's like a chewing gum commercial. Easy to seal the deal.
My frustration lately, the source of my whining, is with my lack of chewing gum moments. You know, actually meeting that sugar-free minty fresh girl and even having her reject me. I don't get that. The ones who come sniffing for my dick, I'm not attracted to at all. I'm very picky I guess.
I'd be happy if I had a girl in my life to pine for yet never have a chance with. I miss that heartache shit. I used to watch all those 90s sitcoms and put myself in that kind of Ross-Rachel dynamic. That was romance to me back than. Being just a friend yet trying work up the courage to tell the girl who I felt. I had a big crush on Caroline in the City.
Anyways, that's all just teenage nostalgia. As an adult, I see we are all rafts floating along a sea of loneliness. If we're lucky enough we may bump hauls or maybe even drop anchor.

Call me Ishmael. Some years ago- never mind how long precisely- having little or no money in my purse, and nothing particular to interest me on shore, I thought I would sail about a little and see the watery part of the world. It is a way I have of driving off the spleen and regulating the circulation. Whenever I find myself growing grim about the mouth; whenever it is a damp, drizzly November in my soul; whenever I find myself involuntarily pausing before coffin warehouses, and bringing up the rear of every funeral I meet; and especially whenever my hypos get such an upper hand of me, that it requires a strong moral principle to prevent me from deliberately stepping into the street, and methodically knocking people's hats off- then, I account it high time to get to sea as soon as I can. This is my substitute for pistol and ball. With a philosophical flourish Cato throws himself upon his sword; I quietly take to the ship. There is nothing surprising in this. If they but knew it, almost all men in their degree, some time or other, cherish very nearly the same feelings towards the ocean with me.

[MMD]

Woah these are some deep thoughts. I am probably the least qualified person here to speak on this but I am not believer in "things just happening". That being said I am not looking for love anymore. I have reached a spot in my life where I really need to focus in establishing who I am as a person and make some positive changes in the self development aspect. Relationships are a hassle I don't enjoy unless I can see a long term prospect now.

[Dr. Lickalottapuss]

And I quote from you: "We are all rafts floating along a sea of loneliness." *hair-flip* :'(

[Dr. Lickalottapuss]

I agree with you on that, man. All of the meditation manuals, and New Age self-help healing philosophies that I've utilized for psychological improvement or excelling in business had talked about focusing on the goal and then the means will naturally manifest through the Universe's mechanism of "coincidence" (and, of course, there is NO SUCH THING AS "COINCIDENCE"!)
I used to focus on the details too, and lose sight of the big picture, and thus luck out on life. The moment I let go and detached myself from the details and the tedious inner workings of the details, I found myself in a state of peace. Thereafter I solely focused on the goal of my objective, and I noticed right away that somehow, some way, in some form, the goals I had set forth and wanted to come into fruition were actually starting to manifest.
In addition, taking into account women in conjunction with this method, I learned not to sweat it with girls and that when you just chill and roll with the punches then things just seem to fall into place. I suggest that more men watch the film "The Tao of Steve". I also suggest that men should read YOUR comment and learn from it because it is true what you say and i know it is because I, as well as others, have put it into application and seen results! :)

Cheers dude!

[MMD]

wait how does this comment system work. Who replied to who. I hate these shitty arrow lines

[Dr. Lickalottapuss]

I replied to Shimbob's first initial post. :)

[Shimbob]

I don't claim to know very much about relationships themselves. In fact, that is where I am most lacking in my knowledge in chicks. I know how to pick them up if I want to, and I do know how to have a good time with them, but I don't neccesarily know how to keep them for an extended period of time. Kinda like the dog that chases a car, and then someday actually catches one by the bumper. I always find myself asking "now what?". Maybe its merely because I'm younger and am not really looking for the 'till death do you part' length of a relationship.
So I guess you could label this as "what do I do once the pussy does pop??"

:)

[Dr. Lickalottapuss]

Hmmmm... I say just roll with the punches. Don't over think relationships. Chicks tend to hint at things they want out of a relationship. Sometimes a chick will say, "Oh wow! Look at these rings!!!" That translates as, "I see you as husband material, so take a hint and start saving up to buy me this beautiful rock muthafucka!!"
In addition, a girl 3 months into a relationship might start mentioning her friends in long-term loving relationships, and then she'll ask your opinion on that. Just pick up on her cues, keep fucking her, and act like you are in charge of the relationship (when in reality, you're just picking up on her subtle cues - and to her knowledge SHE THINKS THAT SHE IS THE ONE MANIPULATING ALL OF YOUR DECISIONS)...when in reality, you're thinking "Bitch, you ain't Ms. Right!! You are just Ms. Right now, hoe!!"
In this way you get valuable "relationship experience" so that when a woman worth proposing to comes along then you will have the knowledge and skills on how to run a successful relationship. Good luck, and Happy Fuckings :)

p.s. Lest We Forget, have a peaceful Rememberance Day. If it wasn't for those brave soldiers, there would be no Foreskin Radio or open forums. So let's take a moment to remember our country's forefathers who died for our freedom's.
...........Amen.